• Meet Valene

    A single mom navigating the ups and downs of raising a teenager while rediscovering herself in her 40s. With a blend of humour and honesty, Valene shares her journey, offering authentic, messy, meaningful, growth, love, and the "What am I even doing?" moments.

  • Empowerment Through Connection

    At Coffee and Chaos, I believe that sharing experiences fosters strength. Connect with a single mom who understands the unique challenges of raising a teenager while rediscovering yourself.

  • Latest Insights from Experience

    Stay updated with our latest blog posts, filled with helpful tips and real-life experiences tailored from navigating their 40s.

    I've been thinking about starting this blog for a long time since my seperation and usually...
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    Let's start with this truth: If you're a single mom in your 40s, self-care doesn't look like...
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    Let me say this upfront: I'm on the cusp of 40, I'm single, and I'm not actively dating. No...
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    A Personal Journey

    As the founder of Coffee and Chaos, I started this journey as a single mom in my 40s navigating life with caffeine, boundaries, curosity, and a lot of real talk. This blog is about unpacking personal growth, self-care that isn't bubble baths, confidence that came late but stayed, dating in your 40s (yes, it's interesting, enter at your own risk), motherhood, wellness, travel, and the everyday chaos no one warned us about.

    No Perfection. No Pretending. No Toxic Positivity. Just real life lessons, messy growth, and figuring it out one coffee at a time.

    If you're juggling chaos, slightly sarcastic, chasing balance, and learning who you are in this season, you're welcome here.

    Reheat your coffee and stay awhile.

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    Building a Community

    This is also about building community because doing life alone is overrated.

    We're talking real connections, shared stories, support systems, and reminding each other we're not behind, broken, or doing it wrong.

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    A Vision for the Future

    With a commitment to ongoing growth and empowerment, Coffee and Chaos becomes a trusted space for reflection, guidance, and connection, one that empowers readers to embrace their own truth, rewrite their stories, and find both beauty in both the quiet moments and the chaos.

    This is a reminder that growth doesn't have to be polished and that sometimes, chaos is where the best stories begin.

    The vision is simple but powerful: to turn real life into shared insight, and shared insight into community.

  • The Chaos Files

    Life Is Full of Chaos and Unexpected Short Relatable Experiences

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    Adulting Is Just Googling Things With Confidence

    I made a decision today.

    Confident. Calm. Very adult of me.

    Then I googled it.

    Now I'm on my fifth tab, questioning everything, and trusting a stranger who said, "I tried this once and everything went wrong."

    This is adulthood: making choices based on experience, instinct, and vibes, then immediately checking the internet to make sure you didn't ruin your life.

    We don't actually know what we're doing. We're just caffeinated, well-intentioned, and trying our best.

    Anyway, here's to confident decisions, questionable google searches, and figuring it out as we go. if you need me, I'll be opening another tab. just to be safe.

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